When it comes to health and fitness and eating well, I have an issue that very few of my real life friends or family know about me- I am a binger. It is painfully embarassing to even type that and there it is. This is something I have struggled with since I was about 9 years old. I can remember sneaking off to the corner store and buying as much chips and candy as my small change would buy me and inhaling it. My childhood was a pretty tumultuous one and from a young age I had found a way to feed parts of me that were not fed. Food was always there. No matter what issues, big or small, my life had in it there was an intense relief that came with a few minutes of a binge. As a grown woman, I have continued to struggle with the “good” stretches and “bad” stretches of an eating regimen/diet. I can “be good” for a few weeks or even a month or two and then that inner demon rears its ugly head. The stricter or more restrictive the “diet”, the worse it is. I am not a psychologist but I would say that any attempt I’ve ever had at dieting is highly OCD. I go postal. The all or nothing mentality comes out for me and then it’s all down hill from there. Most recently, I have made another attempt at following Weight Watchers. Many people, including ones that I know, have had great success with this program and look and feel great. This is in no way a slam on the lifestyle. The problem is that me on Weight Watchers is a plan for miserable failure. Writing down food, weighing it, constantly thinking about what I last ate and what I will eat next brings out the ticking time bomb. Generally, it surfaces sooner than later.
A binge is like a drug for me. There isn’t anything necessarily mindless about it because it is actually well planned out and strategically done so that a) I can get all of the most preferred binge foods and( b) no one in a store would suspect what I’m doing. Whether they would suspect it or not, I know what is going down and it’s not something I am in any way proud of . Keeping it a secret is top priority. For the first few minutes of it, there is such a feeling of release and relief for me. This part is mindless. There aren’t any intense thoughts except maybe how quickly I can get the next bite(s) in. Then the strong feelings of remorse and guilt quickly slip in. They are full of self loathing and negative self talk. There is nothing productive about them. I throw out whatever is left, if there is any, and vow that this was the last time. I may even skip lunch and perhaps dinner in a feeble attempt to make up for the high number of calories I have essentially inhaled. It is the negative, soul killing self talk that leads to the next binge.
I’ve been revisiting a book I had picked up a year ago on the topic. Reading certain attributes about bingers was such a relief because I realized that I’m not the only one with this dirty, little secret. There are some guidelines laid out to work towards overcoming binge eating. For the next few weeks, my goal is to eat 3 meals and 2 snacks every day. It is also to start to embrace and love myself and start some positive self talk to replace the negative.
I have no idea why I needed to share this. I have thought of it a few times and kept putting it on the back burner. I guess I just feel that if one other person could know that they’re not alone in this, posting it made it worthwhile.